XOXOXOXO
AMY
I WAS WRITING OUT "LATE" VALENTINES DAY CARDS, AND THEN HAD TO
LEAVE TO GO WITH MY DH TO HIS DRS. APPOINTMENT IN OKC. WE THEN WENT TO
2 THRIFT SHOPS. I'LL SHOW WHAT WE FOUND ON ANOTHER POST. I TALKED WITH
GIRLS AT BOTH PLACES, WHO SAID THEIR DONATIONS WERE "WAY DOWN!"
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WE STOPPED AND HAD A LOVELY LUNCH AT THE COUNTRY BUFFET. (THAT IS WHERE
AMY HAD HER LAST BIRTHDAY DINNER IN JULY 2009 BEFORE HER TRACH AND
FEEDING TUBE.)
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LUNCH WAS A HOOT. THE RED HAT SOCIETY WAS HAVING A MEETING AND
LUNCHEON IN ONE OF THE PRIVATE ROOMS....THEY WOULD ALL COME OUT
TO FILL THEIR PLATES AND GET DESSERT.
THERE WAS ONE LADY THAT HAD TO BE IN HER SEVENTIES AND LET ME
TELL YOU, SHE WOULD MAKE A TEEN-AGER JEALOUS......ONLY SHE WAS A
CROSS BETWEEN MISS KITTY ON GUN SMOKE, A DASH OF LADY GAGA, AND
SIMMERED IN AUNT BEA FROM MAYBERRY. SHE WAS HAVING A TAD BIT OF
TROUBLE WALKING IN THOSE HEELS....I WAS SCARED SHE WAS GOING TO SLIP
ON THE TILE. HER STRAWBERRY RED HAIR WAS SWEPT UP WITH A PLUMAGE
BOUQUET OF RED AND PURPLE FLUFFY OSTRICH FEATHERS. SHE HAD ON GLOVES
THAT LOOKED LIKE THEY HAD BEEN SEWN FROM RED NETTING WITH THE FINGERS
OUT. VERY LALA FOO FOO.
ONE COULD NOT HELP BUT BE DRAWN TO HER.
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ALL THE WOMEN WERE BEAUTIFUL.....SOME JUST HAD RED SHOES ON BUT I
SUSPECT THEIR BOAS AND HATS WERE IN THEIR LUNCHEON ROOM. ALL
LAUGHING AND HAVING A GOOD TIME....JUST AS LIFE SHOULD BE. IT WAS SO
VERY MUCH FUN SEEING THEM. I HAD MY CAMERA BUT I WAS NOT GOING TO
INVADE THEIR PRIVACY.
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BEHIND US WAS TWO TABLES OF EIGHT WOMEN/ 16 TOTAL......WHO, WHEN THEY
FINISHED EATING PULLED OUT THEIR CARDS AND STARTED PLAYING. THESE WOMEN
HAD CARD HOLDERS FOR THEIR HANDS. THEY WERE SERIOUS PLAYERS....RICHARD
WANTED TO GET OVER TO THEIR TABLE AND I WANTED TO JOIN THE RED
HAT SOCIETY GIRLS.
WE WERE BEGINNING TO THINK, (ALTHOUGH THE BUFFET HAD THE SAME
NAME AND GOOD FOOD), WE WERE IN
A SENIOR CITIZEN'S HOME......AND WORST OF ALL:
"WE LIKED IT!"
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WE HAD PLANNED ON THE WAY HOME TO STOP AT AMY'S RESTING PLACE AND
REMOVE HER GRAVE BLANKET AND THEN TAKE THE SNOW MAN AND WREATH
OFF THE THE WHITE HEART MADE OF HEAVY ROD, PAINTED WHITE.
THE VERY SECOND WE ENTERED THE ROAD THAT WENT TO AMY'S RESTING
PLACE WE WERE BROKEN HEARTED. SOMEONE HAD STOLEN THE WHOLE WHITE HEART
WITH THE HOME INTERIOR SNOWMAN, THE BEAUTIFUL WREATH...PERSONAL CARDS
AND TOKENS MY MOTHER AND MY HUSBAND AND I HAD LEFT AND SAID TO
AMY. THEY ALSO TOOK THE CANDY CANES AND LEFT THE GRAVE BLANKET.
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I ASK, "HOW LOW DO YOU STOOP TO STEAL FROM A GRAVE?" "HAVE YOU
LOST ALL COMPASSION FOR MAN KIND?" THAT LITTLE GRAVE IS SACRED
GROUND....YOU DON'T STEAL FROM GOD! MY DAUGHTER MIGHT NOT NEED
THOSE THINGS ON HER GRAVE, THIS IS TRUE BECAUSE SHE IS WITH THE
"LORD JESUS CHRIST,"
BUT WE WANT A PRETTY PLACE TO COME VISIT MY DAUGHTER, AND MOTHER
HER GRANDDAUGHTER. THAT IS HOW WE SHOW THE LOVE OF OUR
DAUGHTER IS TO PUT PRETTY THINGS THAT SHE LOVED AT HER GRAVE......WE
CAN'T BUY HER PRESENTS, WE CAN'T HUG HER, ALL WE CAN DO IS LEAVE LITTLE
TREASURES FOR HER......NOT FOR YOU TO VIOLATE AND STEAL WHAT YOU WANT.
I CAN'T EVEN THINK OF A WORD FOR SOMEONE WHO STEALS FROM ANOTHER'S
GRAVE. I FEEL SO VERY SORRY FOR YOU THAT YOUR LIFE HAS RESULTED TO
ROBBING GRAVES. THERE IS FORGIVENESS WHEN YOU GO TO THE LORD,
CONFESS YOUR SIN, AND THEN DO IT NO MORE.
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MONDAY WE ARE GOING TO VISIT WITH THE CEMETERY KEEPERS AND
MY MOTHER IS GOING TO THE CLIPPER/ THE HENNESSEY PAPER THAT COMES
OUT ONCE A WEEK AND WILL BE PUTTING A LETTER INTO THE EDITOR
WITH A REWARD.
THANK YOU AS USUAL FOR LISTENING TO MY WOES. I JUST DON'T UNDERSTAND
STEALING AND LEAST NOT FROM A GRAVE. IT MAKES ME REALLY SAD.
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PRAYERS FOR EVERYONE CONTINUES EVERY DAY. PLEASE KNOW YOU ARE BEING
PRAYED FOR.
GRACIE ANN IS IN HER PENNIWIG DESIGNER GOWN AND SHE IS SO HAPPY
TO WEAR IT TODAY, SINCE SHE DID NOT GET TO WEAR IT FOR VALENTINE'S
DAY. SHE LOVES TO DRESS UP. SHE SAID TO TELL YOU...."A GRACIE ANN PECK
AND A HUG AROUND THE NECK."
THANK YOU FOR SPENDING A PART OF YOUR DAY WITH US. WE ARE SO
HONORED THAT YOU COME TO SEE US.
YOU ARE LOVED AND APPRECIATED.
SIMPLY DEBBIE
28 comments:
Good Morning Sweet Debbie!
I am also appalled at the issue of grave decoration robbing! I come from the old fashioned people of decorating the graves of loved ones and it is atrocious that someone does such things. I feel graves are sacred ground also and they are committing a sin against our loved ones that have departed this world. Is it teenagers that have nothing better to do? Is it people that just drive through cemeteries to pick up things like it's a flea market? Only God knows I guess, and we know he DOES see. On that day they stand before God that will be on the list... I guess we have to try to forgive them and pity them "for they know not what they do".
I'm glad this was preceded by a good time at lunch! Sounds like a delightful experience. I love to watch people having fun.
I've got you on my prayer list dear one. My apologies, I thought I'd put you on my sidebar for prayer but hadn't, but I have been praying for your health. You've got to keep fighting against the diabetes Debbie. We're now done here til we take that last breath you know!! And you have lots more to do Sweetie!
Sending you lots of love & big hugs, Sherry
As a bereaved parent... I can understand your sorrow and distain for this happening.
I know how much all of those tributes mean to you and your family...I am sorry you have to suffer more emotional pain.
Rose
Oh Debbie, I was so sorry to hear about this. I live in a city where stuff like this happens all the time. It's exactly WHY I can't bring myself to watch the news for more than maybe once or twice a week. It's sad, depressing, disappointing... It angers me.. It just puts me in a state of mind that I fight to keep out of. I don't want to be sad or mad. I WANT very much so, to see the best in people... And my heart truly goes out to you when I hear something like this. What kind of person would stoop SO LOW to do something like this... It almost seems cruel that it in turn tests the love, faith, and forgiveness in YOUR OWN heart, mind, and soul. But your friends all know, Debbie, the lowest of the low can not shake you! The love in your heart, and your faith in God are too strong for that... Now as for the Red Hat Society, I think after that, I'd be running over to ask how I could join! ((Hugs)) ~tina
There is truly no excuse for this most despicable and cruel act of unkindness. I hope the low-life is apprehended PRONTO and held accountable. I am so sorry you and your family have had to suffer such abuse. God bless you and the memory of your loving daughter, who smiles down on you this and every day.
About Miss KittyBeaGaga: What a character! Truly a better feast for the eyes than the Country Buffet buffet! And I'm glad Miss KBG had the presence of mind to wear gloves sans "finger pockets". <-- The easier to eat finger foods with, my dear! LOL! What a fun red hatted-adventure!
Debbie,
How could anyone do such an awful thing? I too put beautiful things at my Dad and In-laws graves and once that happed to us too.......It is such a violation of the grief you hold for your loved one that rests there. I'm sorry for you to have to have experienced that.
I had to laugh at your luncheon description....I'm glad you could smile and enjoy the moment.
Hugs,
Lynn
Oh Debbie that is so sad. I do know that some cemeteries have very strict rules about what can and cannot be put on graves. I feel sure you checked with the folks, but maybe the caretaker removed to mow or something. I would rather think that than that someone had just stolen it. blessings
QMM
Debbie, I guess there really is no limits to the wickedness of man's heart. It is also beyond me that anyone could stoop soo low. And yet they do. I've always wondered how anyone could harm a child either, or any human being for that matter. But again, everyday it happens. Such a lost and fallen world. SIGH I will lift this situation in prayer for sure. I am glad that you had a fun time at lunch. Watching others is one of my favorite things to do. haha I could just picture these dear women. Have a wonderful day Debbie. Hugs, Debbie
Debbie, good morning sweet ones. When we lived in Sacto, I used to visit my grandfathers grave and leave lovely blooms. I have heard many times of head stones being stolen, beautiful statuary being stolen and resold. It happens all the time. It's a sad day when someone reaches this low, but it's a fact of life. I used to say that maybe someone needed it more than we, but now I just think their are evil people out there looking out for them selves with no care or concern for anyone else. Amy knows you lovingly put beautiful things there. She no longer needs them, but they comfort us. I think when others no longer believe that there is a higher power, you have lawlessness and sadly that is what we are seeing more and more of today. Please let this go, find something good to come of it and don't let your heart be broken. Maybe you shared with a family that has nothing, Amy would have liked that. Thinking of you often, Char
That is such a cool lady in her 70s that you describe and your words made me smile "a cross between Lady GaGa, Miss Kitty and Aunt Bea."
Then I read about the shock of finding your grave decorations stolen. People can go pretty low!
Maybe when the paper prints about it, and the reward, the person will turn it in. I hope so!!
Oh Debbie, it breaks my heart to hear about the wonderful items being stolen! There seems to be more and more of it too, around here there have been alot of cemeteries vandalized and things stolen too, alot of military metals and plaques, it just makes me sick to know there are people so low on this earth! Have they never lost a loved one to feel the pain of it? No matter, it doesn't excuse it ! ((big hugs)) to you sweetie and are your eyes doing any better?? Your always in my thoughts and prayers!
Debbie,
I know how it feels :( I go daily to Amber's resting place ... it is a large cemetery. At Christmas I had a small tree and a snowman on a shepherd's hook with snowmen on her headstone. After Christmas I brought the tree home and left the snowmen. After New Years I put a large snowflake on the hook and snowflakes in her vase with purple and white roses. It was winter!
I had gone by the cemetery one morning and went back before dark and her things were gone! I looked around and everyone's gravesites had been disturbed! I was furious ... I knew then that the cemetery workers had taken the things down! I was furious ... to say the least! I instantly went to the dumpster and found so many things along with Amber's that had been thrown in the dumpster! I was as mad as I have ever been in my life! I called the owner after hours and we had words... well let's say I did the talking! I told him NOT to touch my daughter's resting place EVER. I know that other people thought their loved ones things had been stolen instead the workers had removed the items.
I hope and pray that Amy's things will be returned or you will find them. I know it breaks your heart!
Blessings & Hugs,
Donna
what a horrible thing....
most cemetaries here in California won't let you decorate the graves....sadly, their landscaping won't allow it...if you put flowers or anything down, they are removed within the day...
Debbie Dear ~ Bless your heart!! I know you and your husband were upset when you saw the grave missing decorations - I'm so sorry you went through that painful ordeal. Shame on those thieves!! My mother always used to say about such "well, if they're so desperate they just had to steal it, then fine, they are so miserable, we need to pity them and pray for them".
Here's another thought you might want to check into: I've heard lots of cemeteries regularly remove from graves flowers or decorations that have gotten shabby or weather-beaten (definitely not the reason for you, ever, I know). They also remove anything that marks a holiday that has already passed - in the name of keeping the place neat and whatever. The candy canes and snowman were Christmasy, so I just wonder about this possibility. Seems odd a thief wouldn't take the best thing of all, the cherub. Well, I hope you get things straightened out so ya'll can have peace of mind.
Thinking of and praying for you often....
Cynthia K. (Beauty and Blessings)
I'm so so sorry. When you asked the question, what kind of person would steal from a grave site, well it would be a sociopath. A person with no morals, values, esteem for life; someone with no dignity or without the ability to see beyond material gain regardless of who is hurt, someone who cannot understand love and compassion and humankind, someone who is lost and probably doesn't even know it.
I hope you can get your snowman back. I wonder, however, will the person who stole it try to collect the reward? Remember -- this person is definitely a sociopath.
Gracie Ann is truly looking lovely and her gown doesn't look like she was doing any penny-pinchin. She is so classy.
((((((((((((((((((((((hugs)))))))))))))))))))))))
So sorry that someone took from Amy's resting place......desperate people do desperate things and we should pray for them. I find this very sad.
Keep your chin up sweetie, don't get yourself too upset. It is wrong whoever did this to Amy's grave but don't let him make you or your mother ill as well, they have caused you enough grief.
So glad you enjoyed your lunch and I am praying that your eyes are much better.
..........:-) Hugs
Dear Debbie,
I must say I am shocked that someone would steal from a grave. That is the lowest of the low. How dare they? I am so sorry that you had to experience this despicable behavior. I hope that you find out who did it.
I'm glad, though, that you had a fun time at lunch watching all the Red Hat ladies.
Bless you,
Claudia
That is horrible that someone would be so heartless to do something like that. As if you haven't been through enough grief and heartache to add this on top of it. I hope that whoever did this gets his just deserts!
OMG Debbie I really can't believe what some people will do...I could never look at my face in a mirror again doing something like that HORRIBLE...Don't worry God know your name and will deal with you!! Hugs and smiles Gl♥ria
It just never ceases to amaze me at what some people will do. It totally blows my mind that there is no respect, caring or compassion. These people need prayer in the worst way and I know that's what we're supposed to do for them but it is difficult isn't it? My prayers go out to you and your family Debbie. I consider a final resting place as sacred ground and I believe that our Lord does too. Oh well, they will stand before Him for this action as well as any others they might commit.
Stay strong my friend! You have walked a very rocky pathy but we're all here to hold your hand. Sending you peace, strength and love!
Pat
Dear Deb, Think of you often and Sharon and I talk about you. Things for her have been pretty rough, but two more week and it is over, hopefully.
Miss talking to you, hope you will email me and let me know how things are.
Love Barbara
I'm so sorry to hear this.
I hope you get some resolution.
The Red Hat lunch sounded great. Just today I was thinking of ordering some silver shoes to go with my white hair. Doc Martens. What do you think?
Have a good week, friend.
My dear Debbie not sure if the first comment I left you a few minutes ago went through so I will try again...it said something about an error and then a number.
I am so very sorry that this happened to you and your family. This kind of act is beyond anything that we as decent people can begin to understand. It is the lowest and cruelest thing a low life can do but that is what you are dealing with. I doubt these kind of people read blogs especially ours.
We can not keep anything on my parents grave without it being taken or stolen is the better word. It hurts to have this happen and it happens on their site a lot.
I pray that this will be the one and only time you deal with such a horrible act.
Know that I think of you often and wonder how your doing. No wonder you have been on my mind all day.
Love you Debbie
Maggie
Debbie, those are idiots who stole from Amy's grave. I don't want to cast blame, but probably extremely immature types, maybe they even pawned the beautiful things they took.
But they can't take anything from Amy, because she is literally and figuratively so far above them. I know her heart is full of pity for them, but mine is full of anger and ire. How dare they.
Hi Debbie: I am so sorry you were so hurt by what happened. You are such a wonderful Mom. I pray God will help you with this new hurt. It is so hard to understand why senseless things like this happen. You just kept doing what you do, let God do the rest. Praying for you dear friend. Blessings, Martha
Oh Debbie,
I am so sorry for what happend to Amy's home and for the hurt you must be feeling. I want so badly in my heart to believe it was just a bunch of young kids who don't really understand the enormity of their actions. You would have have to be a very sick individual to do something like that as an adult.
It sounds like you had a fun time watching the Red Hats and the card players! I love your description of the lady with the strawberry hair!
Blessings to you my friend! Hugs, Loretta
Good morning, Debbie!
As usual, I am rushing to catch up..and then I stopped by and read this. I am terribly sorry. Sometimes things happen that are not fair.
The book you found at such a wonderful price is a good one and a comforting one from what a have heard. I thought I had a copy of it but so far I have not found it.
I can tell you are trying to accept and be forgiving of this person or person's. Probably teens who will one day look back and be sorry.
Prayer works..
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